Mama's Mental Health Matters
Frank: It’s the same old story. Boy finds girl, boy loses girl, girl finds boy, boy forgets girl, boy remembers girl, girl dies in a tragic blimp accident over the Orange Bowl on New Year’s Day.
Frank: No, the worst.
Sometimes being Frank is difficult. But the time has come to open up. And for Frank, a mama's mental health is THE MOST IMPORTANT topic of motherhood. It affects every single mama at some point and to varying degrees. Mental health is not a finite, all or nothing state but a spectrum of different emotions and experiences.
We both had rocky roads with our mental health, mainly suffering with anxiety. The anxiety of motherhood can be crippling, which lets not forget can even start before conception! But once your bundle of joy is here, there is nothing but; breast or bottle; cry it out or comfort; carry or push; finger food or puree..... .... as confidence dwindles.
Couple this with the torture of sleep deprivation, it’s no wonder the little things can become a struggle. It's not so much “did you suffer from maternal mental issues” more “how did you deal with the stress / anxiety / depression /blues when it happened to you?" Because every mama has cried in the shower when they are overwhelmed by parenthood.
When you are in it to your eyeballs, its difficult to know if it's a 'goodyear' or not. That's why #thereforher is so important. Offering a cuppa can be the first steps in helping someone recognise the blimps for what they are. Sometimes just validating another mama's strife is all they need to get through the next day.
We have been really impressed by the amount of social media coverage of Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week. Here are some of the highlights and places you can find support (please feel free to share with us your favorites too):
... and to end in the words of Frank (Drebbin - Police Squad):
"I've finally found someone I can love - a good, clean love... without utensils"....